A "Success" to Few, A Misery to Many?

I mentioned in one of my articles that success is relative and unique to a person, or a group of people.

Many of us may or may not realize that, as we are successful in certain undertakings, we may impart negative repercussion and impact to other people. A simple example is the robbers and corrupt people within our society.
For them, their success is measured on how much money and power they rob and usurp from the society they live in. Unfortunately, they have created miseries to the society as a whole. Among others:

• There are fear, sense of insecure and distrust in the society;
• They make life difficult to certain segment of the society;
• The society has to bear the high cost of living by securing themselves.

Then we ask ourselves, is that really a success, to be successful as a robber or in corrupt practices? There are many people among us who really believe, or make it part of their belief system, that to rob and being corrupt are among many ways to achieve success.

A true success is a success not only achieved by an individual, but also shared and enjoyed by many. It's a win-win throughout. A successful business man and woman who is not only enjoy the wealth on his or her own, but also spend a portion of the wealth to be given back to the society. Success shall not breed selfishness and arrogance which may create hatred and uneasiness in the society.

So, if you want to be a successful person, the personal motto should be:

A Success to me, A success to many.


Jam

After a Tough Time, There is Normally a Success

Imagine that a growing baby can speak to you of his or her experience learning to walk for the first time. He or she would tell you the hardship and tough time that he or she has to go through. There are so many hurdles and difficulties in reaching the stage where he or she can walk smoothly. There would be numerous times falling down and trying, hurting oneselves, kicking and breaking vases. Almost all babies have one thing in common, they never give up. They try and strive until they achieve the goal of growing - can walk! That's a big success at that stage.

For the baby, the journey to become a perfect man or woman will continue after successfully surpassing the very first hurdle to progress, that is being able to walk and later run.

Unfortunately, we as a grown man/woman, tend to forget this basic notion of survival. After a tough time, there is normally a success. Then there will be a tougher time, but with persistence and patience like any normal baby, there will be a bigger success.

To expect success come easy is a mere dream. We need to work for a success. It is while working towards it that we will normally face hardship and tough time. This will bring value to our success. It creates sense of achievement, satisfaction and feeling good that we have arrived at certain point in life and career.

If you have forgotten this basic notion, go and play with a baby and watch how persistent and patient he or she is.

Jam

Others Can Achieve Success Because of You

Frankly speaking, I am not that successful in my previous venture into business. Looking backward, these are possible reasons for the failure:

• I was too young when I jumped into business world;
• I was not well equipped with the new business world of Internet; and
• I was driven by the hype of the internet business at that early stage (in 1996).

Recently, in my current company, I met a long time friend, the CEO of a company, who is providing IT solutions to my current company. It was an interesting moment when we chatted about our good and bad days in the fast changing internet business. However, he is still running his own company up till now, whereas, my early company through which I jumped into business has gone kaput.

I would say his company has been successful and expanding as he has been travelling to CeBIT and the Middle East to promote his solutions.

He told me one thing that I would never forget. He decided to involve into internet business when he saw the CEO of my early company appeared in the TV many times over, promoting the wonder of the Internet to life and business.

The only difference is that, he has been more successful in his business.

How do you feel when you are in that situation?

For me, thinking positively, I am still happy as I have been part of the factors for others to be successful. Don't be surprised that one day, we can be a more successful person from others within our circle of influence.

Jam

Tips to Success - Share Your Success Story

I used to be a prolific writer.

This skill had been developed when I was still an undergrad student in a university in Sydney Australia, way back in 1986. Being an editor to a publication of a student body, I have written articles for the publication. Thanks to a senior friend who had inculcated into me the meticulous mindset when writing and publishing.

Recently, I have made a new friendship with one of well known bloggers in Malaysian scene. As we work together in the same company, he shared with me about his previous experience and later his well visited blog. He opened up to me his so-called "blogosphere" - the network of bloggers. To know this guy, go and visit his blog at http://www.brandmalaysia.com.

Blog is another great technology of the day. One thing that helps the progress of human being towards betterment is sharing of many things - experience, knowledge, information, wealth and anything that benefits everybody. I remember one motto that I adhere to, "We Care and We Share".

This "BrandMalaysia" blogger has shared with me a lot. While he is good in writing, he is also excellent in articulating and sharing ideas verbally. When somebody is willing enough to share, be it in writing and in verbal, it is an opportunity to learn and copy a good element in life - Success Story.

There are many companies who are making money from sharing success stories. Best practices are success stories and consultants are making their living through articulating and sharing these best practices. In many cases of my friendship with many people, successful ones are the ones who are very open in sharing their success stories. Sharing success stories also means sharing about failures and frustrations once upon a time in life and working. The motivation of undergoing failures is to learn so that they will not happen second time. Lesson learned is also a component of Best Practices.

Sharing success stories with your close allies is the manifestation that life - is a cycle. In many cases, to be successful also means to be ready to face hardship and challenges. Both are coexistent. It's like watching an action-packed movie which shows sad episodes, and later happy episodes unto the end.

So, what are we waiting for? Share your success story with your close friends and loved ones.

Jam.

Tips to Success - For Everybody on This Planet

Finally, yes, finally.

I have made my decision to blog and share life experience that can bring success to everybody on this planet. I know that, myself and anybody else on this world, want to taste success in their life.

Success is subjective and relative uniquely to you. There are thousands of ways to measure success. For me, an ultimate success is when you achieve and deliver something in your life, you feel the peace of mind and at heart, the satisfaction, the achievement of purpose. It can be in anything and any format.

First of all, for us to be successful in our life, I believe that, it must start in our heart and mind. In both, we must instill continuously that we are born to be a successful human being. Another word, think positive about life and ourselves. A real success is when we achieve and attain a peacefulness in heart and mind.

Life is full of hurdles. For positive minds, they see the hurdles as challenges. For negative minds, they see them as burdens. Let's remember this acronym - WYTIWYS - What You Think is What You Set. I am lending this acronym from another popular acronym - WYSIWYG - What You See is What You Get. Let's become a positive WYTIWYS.

We are the positive WYTIWYS when we:

• strive to set and sail our life in positive mode, most of the time:
• see and interprete the world as full of success and less misery;
• see and accept the people around us - partners, wife, husband, kids, families, friends, rivals, competitors - in positive manners;
• solve all problems rather than talk about them. Let's not become NATO - No Action, Talk Only;

I know, you would say, it is easy said than done. I do agree with that. My question is, when we are in "deep shit", in trouble, in great pressure and in great danger, what should we do? There is only one way to SUCCESSfully overcome those challenges - thinking positively that we can overcome them. What happen if we cannot overcome and face consequences? We are still a successful person when we accept consequences with patience and taking it as another lesson learned.

Jam